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Some links to the last few posts:

Easter Hope & A Sad Anniversary

Ideas for Easter Eggs (for next year?)

How to Help a Child When They Fail (my daughter bombed the spelling bee)

and today’s post, Inspiring Quotes for Parents:

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Patience, Kindness, Belief, Trust, Hugs, Acceptance, Tolerance,Forgiveness…

And don’t forget…

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Want your deposits to be worth more than gold?
Spend time with them, doing something they love.

 

 

 

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Someone showed me this video the other day of these students getting their teacher back
and I couldn’t help but laugh…

He had it coming I suppose…

But wait, the joke gets funnier at the end…

Read how it all got started.

My favorite part about this whole thing was that the teacher was remorseful….
and had a sense of humor.

 

Photo credit:”Crazy Girl Cross Eyed And Pulling Her Ears” by Stuart Miles @ freedigitalphotos.net

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Emotional Wellbeing…

What is that?

This blog post won’t ever be big enough for me to go into the topic the way I’d like (plus it would take days to cover it like I should) but it’s so important that I have to quickly touch on it.

Emotional wellbeing is a sense of security (in a nutshell).

How that comes to us is really a matter of our own particular life events and experiences. We are severely affected by negative things that happen to us and how people treat us.

If we encounter numerous difficult situations, or difficult people, in our life, our emotional wellbeing can be at risk. If we’re prone to strong bouts of weakness (when we tend to tell ourselves ‘whoa is me’) life can take a big turn south and it can be hard to get back up…ever.

We often refer that that as ‘depression’.

This can happen as early as childhood (yes, this is why a counselor or psychologist always skips right to your adolescence after the smalltalk and that’s also why we continually read about teenagers committing suicide.)

True some people are born with chemical imbalances and cannot avoid some level of the emotional and behavioral issues they will encounter, but, there are many more instances where outside factors are the main contributors.

Life pressures, abuse (physical or emotional), malnutrition, neglect, bullying and more, can lead to poor emotional wellbeing. A few of these, or all of them together, are the cocktail for poor emotional health.

Poor emotional health leads to sad kids…

Sad kids (left with issues unaddressed, ignored or denied) leads to poor mental health…

Poor mental health in children can lead to mental health issues in adults (because remember, kids grow up).

I was happy to read this today.

My blog, and how I parent- they both come from an emotionally intelligent perspective.
Why? Because my parents didn’t have one…so I learned everything the hard way.

At least I dealt with it, so now my children have a better chance of skipping over some of the trials I dealt with as a kid, and we may very well break the cycle and a laundry list of stuff they should never have to deal with. (And my grandkids shouldn’t have to deal with either.)

What is emotional intelligence?

That is also another deep subject, but not one that isn’t easy enough to learn…

Basically, it’s do unto others as you would have done to you.

Yes, it’s that simple…or maybe it isn’t, depending upon who you are.

Here are a few tips on how to be an emotionally intelligent parent (and person):

Don’t speak to a child, treat a child, force a child or feed a child something- that you yourself – would not appreciate.

That’s all.

Well, truthfully, that is not even the half of it, but it is the start -

This very attitude can help kids grow up with better mental health & emotional wellbeing.

If you are curious about this topic and would like to read further, please come back, because this is a topic I will be exploring more for you over the next several months.

Want something more to read on this topic now?

Take this quiz and learn more about Emotional Intelligence

Read this: The Language of Emotional Intelligence by Jeanne Segal Ph.D.
(Tip: skip over the doctory stuff for now in the beginning and go right to Chapter 1 – and read about ‘bonds’)

If you are married, or in a relationship, try this book- just the first couple of chapters could preserve and/or save a marriage IF BOTH PARTIES DID WHAT IT SAYS, because as I see it, if you both do what’s there, you can’t go wrong:

Read His Needs, Her Needs- How to Build an Affair Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr.

 

Photo credit:”Portrait Of A Hispanic Happy Young Mother Holding A Baby” by David Castillo Dominici
 on freedigitalphotos.net

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Discipline has to be the worst part of being a parent and when we do it, we don’t always do it right.

I came from a home where my father was the disciplinarian. When he punished me, he punished me good (or bad…depending upon who you asked).

I didn’t get a day, week or weekend…I got a month. As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I still did not learn the lessons he was trying to drive home. Had he done something other than yank all privileges, I might have had something to learn.

Recently, my middle child had another bought with an attitude problem. She gave her sister a bit of an attitude when asked to help out with the laundry. The punishment ended up that she would have to do two weeks of cleaning the bathroom and doing the children’s laundry (all 3 of them- all by herself).

She lugged and toiled over it all weekend (two full flights of stairs- at least 8 loads) and now realizes that when we are asking her to sacrifice ten or fifteen minutes to help the family out, it really isn’t such a big deal.

Not every act of disobedience needs to be met with a lashing or a prison sentence. Sometimes it’s just as easy as adding an extra chore, even if it’s temporary, it’s a lesson (understand the little bit we ask for and appreciate all that is already done for you).

One of my favorite punishments?? Making the younger ones become servants to the older one for a day after they’ve sassed her back or misbehave while she is babysitting them.

It makes them really regret their behavior
because teens, as we know, can be high maintenance. (HAHAHAHAHA!- IT’S FUN TO WATCH-
AND THE LESSON IS LEARNED.)

Here’s one parenting book I loved which had great discipline methods.

 

(Photo credit:Angry Young Woman Pulling Her Hair Out Stock PhotoBy stock images @Freedigitalphotos.net)

 

 

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IS YOUR FAMILY STRESSED? TIRED?
READ: How to ‘Lighten Up’ at Home-
County Kids Magazine-April-News-Herald Ohio.

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This is something I came across yesterday and thought that it was so very well written and well said (very educational for parents).

I came from a very strict background. Discipline must have been my father’s middle name, because he was that typical case which is mentioned in this article, where he thought that punishing was the way to making me learn lessons and stay out of trouble.

While I write a lot about discipline, but this article is written in detail, much better than I could articulate what I do at home to get that balance, and it’s using true examples of kids who behave even worse when it’s discipline time.

I really think this is a worthy read no matter what your child type. Valuable knowledge goes a long way because as we all know, kids go through many different stages. Even if your kids are good today, or they respond positively to discipline, read this, you might just need it someday.

 

Photo credit:”Eight Year Old Boy Clenching His Fists” by David Castillo Dominici via freedigitalphotos.net

 

 

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Day 10 of the Family Sickbay and I have a little time to kill prior to calling the office when they open at 8 to schedule an appointment for my youngest.

I like to do a lot of different things for leisure (when I have a surplus of it haha)…but what can I do in just twenty minutes what could pass the time? I decided to check out some news…

This is what I learned:

A few days ago President Barack Obama went to visit with Pope Francis and what they disused surprised me, but gave me hope (okay, I am quite a few days behind but happy to catch up)

The MH370 tragedy is still an unknown(such a sad story about a wife of 20 years/mother airline stewardess on that flight)

It’s the last day for open enrollment into Obama Care (but the site isn’t working at the moment so come back later haha)

Turkey blocked Youtube.

It is going to be 60 here in the NE tomorrow (but the rest of the week is questionable- of course)

Got to see an 8 mos. old photo of Princess Diana’s little grandson, Prince George.

Things I skipped:
Anything having to do with Hollywood celebs, car accidents or murders…

Most news can be negative in nature anyhow, but it also has a lot to do with what we choose to read.

I might be a busy parent and have a lot of my own things to deal with, but I am always curious about the kinds of things my country is dealing with -and how they are dealing with it (and how other countries are for that matter).

Raising children means that we bring them into a world that’s not just our house…

It’s important to impress upon kids the idea that they don’t just live here: in their room, in their home…
And that life is bigger: they live here, in this house, in this county, in this state, in this nation, on this continent, and along with many others who are living and breathing like them, making changes to the environment and society just like they are. Their life doesn’t begin and end with just themselves and it doesn’t end when we, their parents, pass on… it will continue. So introduce them to national and world news so that they understand their surroundings and their future (and most of all how they can get involved to make the change they want to see in the world).

Happy Monday- what piece of news will you share with your children and use for discussion today?

(Oh yeah, that doctor’s appointment? We got a 9 am- wish us luck. I think it’s ear infections-gauging by the way he likes to wear earmuffs around the house.)

photo credit:”News Word On Computer Shows Media And Information” by Stuart Miles

 

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