This weekend I had to stop at the office supply store to buy some ink for my printer. I brought my teen in with me.
I told her that the ink I was buying today was for my business, and it was being paid for with my business account, so we’d just have to wait until next week to get ink for the ‘kids’ printer because it was not in the home budget.
As I sorted through the numerical system of hp ink cartridges she suddenly bawked at the cost of some of them. “FIFTY DOLLARS!” was what I heard her spat. I’d assumed she’d located hers (or one in that vicinity) and had for the first time, realized the cost of printer ink.
Following me to the register, she asked why the ink cost so much. I told her I had no idea, but that since it was so expensive, hopefully now she knew why we were waiting until next week to buy hers, and that it’s also one of the reasons why we only print what we absolutely need to (and for the fact that we hate wasting paper, i.e.; killing trees).
Sometimes kids need to see the cost of things we buy so they appreciate it when they get it, or understand when they don’t.
A lot of parents consider financial subjects taboo for children…I consider it a part of life.
If we don’t teach them, how will they learn?
Before we have children, it’s so easy to plan out, step by step, the things we will and will not do, and somewhere along the line we think it will be a piece of cake to stick to it.
9. Never have a traditional-style mixed matched Christmas tree (My tree is always full of handmade
5. Never give in to a child (Humph…I’m so wrapped…)
4. Always keep a clean house (child #3 successfully helped diminish any part of this illusion that I might
2. Never swear in front of my children (they are so sweet not to repeat)
1. Never drive a mini-van (I may as well say I do, I drive a station wagon, and there isn’t much
“A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child.” –Forest E. Witcraft
Having a child is the most amazing gift, but it’s not always fun, and actually comes with some hefty sacrifices and struggles.
I started this blog a year ago this week, and have shared the good, bad, ugly and funny, all with the hopes that you won’t feel alone on your parenting journey.
I learned how to parent the unconventional way; with common sense and a book. I grew up in a dysfunctional, and divorced, family. Then, at age 32, I became divorced myself.
I had no one to show me the ropes and have had every reason to fail at my job, but so far, my three children and I have done the best we can to figure out how this should work. We aren’t perfect, but know we don’t have to be. We have what matters: love, close bonds and faith, we show each other respect, patience and trust, so I think we’re doing okay.
My wish is that on good days, you will visit Family Matters seeking a different point of view and new approaches to your family dilemmas. On bad days, I hope you can come here, read something which you can relate to, and leave enlightened.
I also hope that by sharing my ups and downs of family life with you, it will allow you to feel comfortable enough to do the same and that, even on the worst of days, you can look into your child’s eyes and find solace.
To celebrate Family Matters’ First Birthday, I improved the design of the blog and I hope that you like it!
Here are the Top 5 Most Read Family Matters with Amber Posts for 2011:
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