10 Things I said I’d Never Do Before I Became a Parent

Before we have children, it’s so easy to plan out, step by step, the things we will and will not do, and somewhere along the line we think it will be a piece of cake to stick to it.

Basically, an only child until I was 16, (I hadn’t grown up with siblings, a mom or the white picket fence), so there were a few things I swore (someday) I would never do as a parent.Here are ten of them (which by the way, I failed miserably):

10.  Never listen to children’s music in the car (Now I sing along!)
9.    Never have a traditional-style mixed matched Christmas tree (My tree is always full of handmade
       ornaments the kids make every year, and I look forward to more!!!)
8.    Never wear sweatpants out of the house…(This is a newly broken rule, since my daughter began having
       early meetings at school…thank goodness it’s usually still dark out that early in the morning!)
7.    Never watch the same movie/show over and over again (‘Elmo loves his Goldfish, His Crayons 
6.    Never read the same book twice (My name is ‘Sam I am’…)
5.    Never give in to a child (Humph…I’m so wrapped…)
4.    Always keep a clean house (child #3 successfully helped diminish any part of this illusion that I might
         have still held on to.)
3.    Never make an unhealthy dinner (long gone…)
2.    Never swear in front of my children (they are so sweet not to repeat)
1.    Never drive a mini-van (I may as well say I do, I drive a station wagon, and there isn’t much 
       difference, not to mention my last car was an SUV that felt like a bus!)
I love being a Mom….

“A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child.” -Forest E. Witcraft

Happy Birthday Family Matters & Top 5 Posts for 2011


Having a child is the most amazing gift, but it’s not always fun, and actually comes with some hefty sacrifices and struggles.

I started this blog a year ago this week, and have shared the good, bad, ugly and funny, all with the hopes that you won’t feel alone on your parenting journey.

I learned how to parent the unconventional way; with common sense and a book. I grew up in a dysfunctional, and divorced, family. Then, at age 32, I became divorced myself.

I had no one to show me the ropes and have had every reason to fail at my job, but so far, my three children and I have done the best we can to figure out how this should work. We aren’t perfect, but know we don’t have to be. We have what matters: love, close bonds and faith, we show each other respect, patience and trust, so I think we’re doing okay.

My wish is that on good days, you will visit Family Matters seeking a different point of view and new approaches to your family dilemmas. On bad days, I hope you can come here, read something which you can relate to, and leave enlightened.

I also hope that by sharing my ups and downs of family life with you, it will allow you to feel comfortable enough to do the same and that, even on the worst of days, you can look into your child’s eyes and find solace.

To celebrate Family Matters’ First Birthday, I improved the design of the blog and I hope that you like it!

Here are the Top 5 Most Read Family Matters with Amber Posts for 2011:

(Additional Archives -prior to July 2011- can be found at FamilyMatterswithAmber.blogspot.com)

Enjoy, come back often, and don’t be afraid to share.